Frogs are drowning in my pool and are resisting help. Don’t be like them!
Today, I saw a frog struggling in my pool. The sides are slippery and this poor frog looked like he had been paddling for a while and was tiring out. It was heartbreaking. I grabbed the pool “scooper” and attempted to save him. But, overtime I got close, the frog swam away.
Obviously, the poor frog felt threatened by the pole. I went around to other frogs that were also in there and saved a few by scooping them out and placing them on the lawn.
I went back to the original frog and he resisted so much that he swam to the bottom of the pool and was laying on the floor of the deep end. LITERALLY.
I sat watching him. How do I convince him I am safe? His life will change? It will be ok. He will be happier. Life will be easier?
The irony!! This is exactly what I experience with some clients. I am throwing them a lifeline. I am trying to help. I am offering support, safety and passage to a new life. Yet, they resist like crazy and swim in the other direction. The only place they have to go is deeper into their own illness and sadness.
Now, I realize, just like in the case of the frog, I am not the only way out. One can learn from others, pull themselves up or find other options to save themselves. Or, one can hide from growth and go towards their drowning. Make sense?
Which way will you go?